Feeling Emotional? Try Emotional Singing!
When you’re feeling emotional, Emotional Singing may be just what you need to express your emotions! Not sure what the technical term is for this, so I’ve named it Emotional Singing. It’s a brilliant emotional management technique.
I don’t consider myself a very talented singer, but that doesn’t stop me from singing. I regularly turn my responses to others into songs; often existing songs, but sometimes I make up my own. I sing my cat’s name when I want to get his attention. Sometimes I burst into my opera voice when I’m feeling bigger than life. You may be surprised to know that this annoys my family. Lately, I have been singing, “Everything little thing is gonna be alright,” over and over and over.
If you’ve read my other posts or are familiar with our Connection Zoo® Feelings Chart, you’ll know that I’m a huge advocate of talking about your feelings. I believe so strongly in the power of talking about how you feel and teaching your kids to do the same not only because of my first-hand experience but also because there is a ton of research that tells us we must “name it to tame it,” and “mention it to manage it.”
So, when I heard about Emotional Singing, I knew I had found one of the greatest emotional regulation techniques! You can use it not only for your own mental health but also to model for your kids how to effectively manage emotions, an important emotional intelligence skillset. WARNING: Side effects include family members rolling eyes, saying, “Mommmmmmmmm Stoppppppppppp!” or leaving the room.
If you don’t believe me that Emotional Singing is awesome…
Did you know that studies show singing has health benefits?
Singing can improve your mood because it releases the same feel-good brain chemicals as sex and chocolate! It can also be an effective stress reliever and improve your sleep.
5 Steps to Emotional Stardom:
- You notice an emotion coming on strong. Maybe it’s anger. You know if you don’t attend to this emotion, you may do something you regret later. You’re the parent and you know you must set an example (kids do as we do, not as we say).
- You name your emotion. Are you feeling anger, sadness, surprise, fear, happiness, love?
- You clear your throat, open your mouth, and start singing. You make up the lyrics as you go, embracing how you feel, selecting words that are appropriate for your audience. For example (in a melodic or operatic voice): “I feel angry! I’m irritated, frustrated, and annoyed. No one seems to care what I say. There are socks everywhere I turn. Dirty dishes and clothes on the floor in every room. I want to scream (you may increase the volume here), but instead I’ll sing. The more I sing, the more I want to dance (at this point you may add some of your best dance moves). Angry, la, la, la. That’s how I feel, la, la, la, la.” Keep singing (and dancing) until you feel better (if singing about an emotion that doesn’t feel good) or until you’re out of lyrics (if you’re singing about an emotion that feels good).
- Savor the moment by taking a deep breath: Inhale through your nose, and exhale with a sigh through your mouth.
- Finish like the superstar that you are. Smile big, take a bow and encourage applause, standing ovations and autograph signing.
Congratulations! Your Emotional Singing is sure to set you on your way to greater emotional intelligence and stardom!
Feel Well. Be Well. Do Well.